What can you do?
So here are some suggestions about talking with children about a subject such as this.
•Don't say "You shouldn't feel this way,” or "You don't need to worry about that.”
•Don't judge what the child is feeling. In other words, don't say "that's silly” or "that's stupid” or accuse the child of overreacting.
•On the other hand, do listen for the feelings underneath the words they are saying. Take their feelings and reflect them by saying "So you're feeling really scared/angry/sad?”
•Ask the child what you can do with them that will maybe help that child feel safe.
•Take their feelings and be specific in helping address it.
•If he or she is scared: Check that all the doors have locks. Program cell phones with one-button dialing to parents/grandparents/sitter/911.
•If the child is angry: What can we do to work off some of that anger — pound nails into a board, punch a punching bag, go for a bike ride — something active.
•If the child is sad: Take — not mail — a donation with your child to a program who helps children who have had someone they love die.
Let me close with a couple suggestions that may or may not help my children in times like these, but I know they've helped me. First, give your child an extra hug. Second, realize that you are never really as busy as you think so give that time to your family.