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First dates are nerve-wracking. What do you wear? What do you say? You want to feel comfortable talking to the person but, at the same time, not let your guard down completely. Moreover, nerves do take over and if you do not know how to relax, there’s potential for things to go astray.
I felt out-of-place entering the dating scene after my divorce. I didn’t even want to date. What was the point? Well, I jumped back into it after much debate. I learned, all over again, what not to do. As trying and awkward as my first dates were, I was glad I went through the process. If not, I would not have found my prince charming.
If you want to have a smooth first date, learn to relax and enjoy the moment.
Introduce your children to your date.
If you choose to have your date pick you up at home and you have kids old enough to understand you are dating, then it is not a bad idea to introduce them to each other. Make sure your date is kind towards your children. If you receive a negative vibe from your date towards your kids, chances are the first date is the last.
Do not speak of your ex.
The only exception is if your date asks you something about your ex in reference to your kids. A quick but respectful response is best. It is not mature to badmouth your ex regardless if he was good or bad to you. Your first date is not the place for that type of discussion. Remember, this is your time with someone new. Learn about each other, not each other’s past relationships.
Do not eat at the same place you and your ex used to frequent.