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How to look past hurtful remarks

I became that mother who was chastised by a stranger for her parenting. Here are a few things I've learned as I've tried to let it go.
Courtnie Erickson, FamilyShare Modified: July 1, 2014 at 10:31 pm •  Published: July 5, 2014
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It finally happened to me. Someone, some stranger, approached me in the grocery story and lectured me about my parenting. I have a wiggly, active little boy. When we go shopping, I let him sit in top of the cart, but on my fast trips I usually don’t buckle him in. He hates feeling confined and does much better just sitting there without the belt on. This particular day, he started to stand up so he could reach something nearby. As always, I was right there, telling him to sit down. But some lady rushed over to me to tell me what a bad mother I was for not strapping my child in the cart.

Now, I know my son could fall out of the cart but I never leave his side. I was so hurt and embarrassed that some lady would go out of her way to tell me that I was a bad mother when I already feel too overprotective of his adventurous spirit. That situation bothered me for several days. In fact, it still pains me to think about it. Those hurtful things she said are taking an excessive amount of time to get over.

It has happened to many of us. Someone we love or even a complete stranger makes a rude or disrespectful comment about us or our lifestyle. Sometimes these comments are made without the person even realizing what she is saying. Comments about the way you dress, even though you don’t have the money to buy new clothes, or your hair, even though you spent hours trying to get it perfect, can be discouraging. Some individuals even make comments about careers, religions, ethnicities, health problems without the slightest apology.

When these types of comments and remarks are made to you, it is hard to brush them aside. I have received comments about many different aspects of my life from my religion, weight and different skill sets. Unfortunately, these comments are not just made by complete strangers but by family members who I love and care about.

I have a difficult time looking past hurtful remarks, and I am guilty of holding a grudge toward others. However, I am slowly learning how to better myself and not get so wrapped up in what others say or think. Here are a few things I’m learning in this process.

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