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Inspiring couples: 56-year marriage reflects commitment at home and in serving others

High school sweethearts Bill and Shirley McConnell's 56-year marriage shows levels of commitment and devotion also seen in their work in the community, including transforming a crippled colt into a therapy horse.
by Carla Hinton Modified: December 20, 2010 at 2:17 pm •  Published: December 19, 2010

photo - Bill and Shirley McConnell married in 1954.
Bill and Shirley McConnell married in 1954.

With tender care and devotion, high school sweethearts Bill and Shirley McConnell nurtured a crippled miniature horse to become a crowd-pleasing therapy animal.

Those who know them best said the pair bring that same level of commitment and devotion to everything they do, especially their 56-year marriage.

The key to their long-lasting love? Genuine friendship.

“We're best friends,” Shirley McConnell said, smiling. “In other words, if I weren't married to Bill, he would be somebody that I admire. You have to respect each other and love one another.”

Strong commitment

Kathy McConnell-Thomas, the couple's daughter, nominated her parents for the “most inspiring couple” recognition. In her nomination letter, she said the pair have led a remarkable life built on a foundation of diligence and fortitude.

“Both have a strong commitment to serve others, first to their families, then to our church and community,” she said.

Shirley McConnell said she and Bill met at Choctaw High School. She said both were student leaders and varsity basketball players.

The pair married in 1954 and had certain goals in mind from their start.

Shirley McConnell, 75, said she knew she wanted a career, and Bill didn't have a problem with that. Bill, a lifelong horse lover, wanted to raise horses and help out the community.

Shirley McConnell said they were both from good, hardworking families who taught them how to be self-sufficient.

“We knew from day one we were going to have to make it on our own,” she said. “That was OK, because we had a vision for what our life was going to be like, and we have pretty much hit the mark.”

Bill McConnell, 77, became one of the original Oklahoma County Mounted Patrol deputies when the unit started. During his tenure, he received two commendations from the U.S. Secret Services for his service in providing security for two U.S. presidents, Ronald Reagan and George Bush, when they visited Oklahoma City. When a mounted unit was added to the Choctaw Police Department, then-Choctaw Police Chief John Whetsel (now Oklahoma County sheriff) asked McConnell to head that unit.

On April 19, 1995, Bill McConnell was headed to the Oklahoma State Bureau of Investigation's headquarters when he was asked to assist mounted officers at the Oklahoma City bombing site. He worked 12-hour shifts every day for the first week. Bill McConnell served on the mounted unit until his retirement in 2004.

Shirley McConnell began her career at Oklahoma Federal Credit Union with a part-time auditor position in 1956. In 1967, she became the credit union's assistant manager, and in 1973, she became president and CEO of Mobil Oil Employees Federal Credit Union in Oklahoma City. She held that position until 1978 when Mobil Oil moved its Oklahoma City office to Dallas. Shirley McConnell returned to Oklahoma Federal Credit Union as president and CEO and held that position until retirement in 2003.

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by Carla Hinton
Religion Editor
Carla Hinton, an Oklahoma City native, joined The Oklahoman in 1986 as a National Society of Newspaper Editors minority intern. She began reporting full-time for The Oklahoman two years later and has served as a beat writer covering a wide...
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Editor's note

Bill and Shirley McConnell are featured in the “Oklahoma's Most Inspiring Couples” 2010 calendar, sponsored by the Oklahoma Marriage Initiative. Couples featured in the calendar are being profiled in The Oklahoman's Life section each month. For more about the Oklahoma Marriage Initiative's inspiring couples, go to


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