Each month, The Oklahoman's editorial board recognizes a contributor to Your Views for a letter to the editor that exemplifies a timely, fair, accurate and cogent viewpoint. Carla Nickles, of Midwest City, is the honoree for letters that appeared in Your Views last month. Her "Time to heal" letter was published Dec. 29.
Meet the writer:
Carla Campbell Nickles grew up in Nicoma Park and graduated from Choctaw High School. Since 2006, she's worked as an intellectual property assistant at the Oklahoma Medical Research Foundation. Nickles and her husband, Brian, live in Midwest City with their two sons; a grown daughter lives in Bixby. She has done volunteer work promoting organ and tissue donation. She attends Nicoma Park First Baptist Church, where she sings in the choir. One of Nickles' sons died in a car accident when he was 17.
As I stood at my son's grave to check on the Christmas tree I bought him, I couldn't help but think of those lives cut short in Newtown, Conn. My heart ached for the families, knowing the utter despair they'll feel for months and years. This isn't about gun control, whether you're for or against it. As a mother who has lost a son, I would be peeved that people who have no idea what it's like to lose a child make my son's death about anything political or to further their own agenda.
While you debate your "freedom" to have or not have a gun, families are burying their loved ones. Under Christmas trees are presents that will not be opened. No giggles of children on Christmas. Every Christmas, the only present those who are left behind will be able to get for their loved ones are grave decorations. I can't begin to tell you the pain they are feeling and will feel. I doubt that they give a flying fig about your views on guns right now.
So to those spouting their right to own a gun or their reasoning for getting rid of them — stop it! Put your agenda aside for awhile and hurt with these people. Be there for them. Give them time to grieve and begin to heal. Don't you dare try to justify your "right" to me. Not now.