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  • Wrong turns are OK

    By CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Jul 22, 2014

    Columnist Charlotte Lankard writes that all of us can recall times when we made a mess or took a wrong turn — and those persons who were there to help us clean it up and start over.

  • Charlotte Lankard: Developing patience requires time out

    BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Jul 15, 2014

    What if patience is not a feeling but instead a way of behaving when what you are feeling is anxious, hurried, late, helpless, insecure, afraid, left out?

  • Your Life: Journey to 'wherever' ends in courage, energy

    By CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Jul 8, 2014

    Charlotte Lankard: Cirque Du Soleil leaves spectators with a sense of inspiration.

  • Charlotte Lankard: Looking at aging with fresh eyes

    By CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Jul 1, 2014

    If your summer plans involve conversations with senior adults, you might want to borrow some questions from Cynthia Brown, who teaches a class on psychology/sociology of aging at Oklahoma City Community College.

  • 'Sunny Day Rule' is great for kids in summer

    By CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Jun 24, 2014

    If the sun was shining, one father made a rule that the television stayed off for the day.

  • Charlotte Lankard: Being 'old' is OK

    By CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Jun 17, 2014

    Senior adult readers tell of full, enriching lives.

  • Your Life: Count the gifts, not errors, from your father

    By Charlotte Lankard | Updated: Mon, Jun 9, 2014

    Charlotte Lankard: My father was not a hands-on, doting father. He assumed a role typical of the generation in which he was raised — the head of the house and the breadwinner. My Dad was also the maker of the rules — a Southern Baptist preacher with a set of beliefs that left no room for discussion.

  • Charlotte Lankard: Being a Thunder fan can lead to PTSD — Post Thunder Stress Disorder

    By CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Jun 3, 2014

    “Thunder pathology” can result in excess anxiety, loss of sleep and nightmares about strangers named Dirk, CP3 and Birdman.

  • Your Life: What can we learn from mistakes we've made

    BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, May 27, 2014

    Charlotte Lankard: Who among us has not at some time said or done something we regret and would give anything if we could take it back? The only way to move past that kind of regret is to learn from it.

  • Cherishing memories keeps them alive

    BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Updated: Mon, May 19, 2014

    Memorial Day is next week — and is set aside as a time to remember. A time to remember our soldiers killed in battle. A time to remember others we love who have died.

  • Charlotte Lankard: Mending something broken often makes it stronger

    By CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, May 13, 2014

    To our surprise we often discover when something has been mended, it may be stronger than before.

  • Mothers often enter parenthood with little preparation

    BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, May 6, 2014

    Columnist Charlotte Lankard writes that mothers, “being the sensitive creatures we are, typically spend time reflecting about whether or not we were good mothers. If we are honest, we believe we did some things well but we also know we made our share of mistakes.”

  • Charlotte Lankard: Do's and don'ts for divorcing parents

    By CHARLOTTE LANKARD | Updated: Mon, Apr 28, 2014

    Former executive director of the nonprofit Calm Waters in Oklahoma City gives advice on how divorcing parents should handle their children.

  • Quiet places renew the spirit

    By CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Apr 22, 2014

    Those who give much to others need a place of restoration.

  • Lankard: Message of spring — Don't give up

    BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Apr 15, 2014

    The message of springtime is: Don't give up. A new season is on its way.

  • Charlotte Lankard: His name is Jacob — Birthday wishes for a new teen

    BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Apr 8, 2014

    For his 13th birthday, an Oklahoma grandmother wishes her grandson a life of balance.

  • Never miss a good chance to shut up

    BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Apr 1, 2014

    Listening means stop talking, strive to understand, observe body language, don’t interrupt, and forgo planning what you want to say in return. Just listen.

  • Your Life: At any age, it feels good to give

    BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Mar 25, 2014

    Charlotte Lankard: A granddaughter discovers the gift of giving.

  • Your Life: Learn to hope for spring in wintry times of doubt

    BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman | Published: Tue, Mar 11, 2014

    Charlotte Lankard: All of us find ourselves at crucial times when we are wrapped and shrouded in questions, doubts and uncertainties, and yet somewhere within us are some exclamations and affirmations that there is more to life than can be seen.

  • After Valentine's Day, keep love intentional

    BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD | Updated: Mon, Feb 17, 2014

    Columnist Charlotte Lankard writes that happy couples turn toward each other rather than away. This means they look for ways to be physically and emotionally close.