Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---How about family members hosting baby showers?

    Callie Gordon,Lillie-Beth Brinkman,Helen Ford Wallace | Updated: Mon, Feb 8, 2016

    To ask an etiquette question, email Helen  -  hfsok@aol.com   By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: Is it ok if I have a baby shower for my sister? My mother thinks that her friends should be the one having it and not me. Is that etiquette rule outdated? CALLIE’S ANSWER: If you want to have a baby shower then absolutely! There will be so many other ways you shower your sister and that baby though; it doesn’t really matter.

  • Theater Etiquette---20-40-60 Etiquette

    Callie Gordon,Lillie-Beth Brinkman,Helen Ford Wallace | Updated: Tue, Jan 26, 2016

     To ask an etiquette question, email helen.wallace @hfsok@aol.com YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: I went to a traveling Broadway show in Oklahoma City with my husband a couple weeks ago. Next to us, a couple during intermission was bad-mouthing the cast, as well as comparing it to the cartoon version. It annoyed me this couple was comparing a live performance to a cartoon. Is there show etiquette? CALLIE'S ANSWER: ABSOLUTELY! Wait until you are outside of the venue to start critiquing the show. While that was rude of them, I probably wouldn't have said anything to them.

  • Should I look through the house? 20-40-60 Etiquette

    Callie Gordon,Lillie-Beth Brinkman,Helen Ford Wallace | Updated: Thu, Jan 7, 2016

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! QUESTION: I went to visit one of my aunts and she welcomed me at the door and wanted to show me her house. Is it good manners to offer to show your house to someone who didn't ask to see it? It was not a new house. I have also been to a couple of parties where guests toured the home of the people who were hosts. That seemed to me to be a huge breach of etiquette. Is there a rule about house tours? By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace CALLIE'S ANSWER: Each person is different; some people are very proud to show off their home. Some like to give tours or let people see it for themselves. I wouldn't think too much about it.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---Still working on the menu!---Vegan choices?

    Callie Gordon,Lillie-Beth Brinkman,Helen Ford Wallace | Updated: Tue, Dec 29, 2015

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE!  By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: I'm a vegan. What are the best ways to approach group meals? During the holidays I usually bring a dish that is vegan and that everyone is welcome to enjoy, but what is the best way to approach my family about including vegan options in what they bring? I think this question is also applicable to people who are vegetarian and gluten free.   CALLIE’S ANSWER: Is this a new thing for you to be vegan? If not, I am sure your family knows to incorporate a few vegan options. If not, ask the menu planner and decide if there are ways for some dishes to be vegan.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---How about gift lists?

    Helen Ford Wallace | Published: Mon, Dec 14, 2015

    By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: My wife thinks online gift lists are impersonal. What are your thoughts about sending family and friends wish lists? Is it rude? Does it remove that personal touch? CALLIE’S ANSWER: I love lists! It is hard to think of gifts for everyone, and if there were a […]

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---Need a snappy comeback?

    Callie Gordon,Lillie-Beth Brinkman,Helen Ford Wallace | Updated: Mon, Nov 23, 2015

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace   QUESTION: I was in the elevator recently on my way visit a friend in the hospital. I had on a new shirt and vest and really thought I looked stylish. A lady (stranger) looked at me, grabbed my cuff and said “well, these sleeves are really too long. You might want to cut them off.” I was shocked and said nothing. Is there a polite retort for “mind your own business?” CALLIE’S ANSWER: I don’t think you need to say anything at all. Be confident in your look, and don’t mind strangers.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---How about December birthdays?

    Callie Gordon,Lillie-Beth Brinkman,Helen Ford Wallace | Updated: Tue, Nov 17, 2015

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: If someone's birthday is in December, is it appropriate to give them one gift and say it's for both their birthday and Christmas?  CALLIE'S ANSWER: Absolutely! It is so nice and thoughtful to get a present for birthday/Christmas. LILLIE-BETH'S ANSWER: You could ask your friend how she or he feels about that. I'm sure it's not the first time this has come up after a lifetime of December birthdays, so you could get a feel for her opinion on this posed as a general discussion.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---Political tee shirts for children?

    Helen Ford Wallace,Callie Gordon,Lillie-Beth Brinkman | Updated: Mon, Oct 19, 2015

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION:  My family is a bunch of news junkies. Long before the likes of Donald Trump and Bernie Sanders emerged onto the political stage, my preteen children have enjoyed watching the 2016 presidential race coverage. My 11-year-old son has expressed “support” for one particular candidate and wants to purchase a T-shirt (supporting the candidate). I respect his interest and desire to be involved in the political process. Is he too young to wear such a shirt? Should I worry what other people think (i.e.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette: Young political enthusiast wants to show support

    By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman and Helen Ford Wallace | Published: Mon, Oct 19, 2015

    A mom wonders what to do about her 11-year-old son wanting to wear a T-shirt in support of a political candidate. Is he too young?

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette: Unexpected guest brings anxiety

    By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman and Helen Ford Wallace | Published: Mon, Oct 12, 2015

    My daughter had a birthday party last month. We had invited five girls to join us for a special dinner and sleep over. We made dinner reservations at a very expensive restaurant to celebrate my daughter’s 13th. At the last minute, one of the mom's asked whether her child's friend could come.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette has question from Michigan!

    Helen Ford Wallace,Callie Gordon,Lillie-Beth Brinkman | Updated: Mon, Oct 5, 2015

    Please send etiquette questions to Helen  -  hfsok@aol.com YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: I have some questions relating to table manners — more specifically, to the passing of food plates, sauces and condiments. These questions arose on a recent fishing trip. All of the table etiquette posts that I've read online deal with passing to the right but fail to say much about what should trigger the passing.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette: At the table, who passes what first?

    By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman and Helen Ford Wallace | Published: Mon, Oct 5, 2015

    The Oklahoman's 20-40-60 Etiquette columnists pass along reminders about what to do when food and condiments aren't making their way to diners in an orderly fashion. Hilarie Blaney has the guest answer.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---Should I try again?

    Helen Ford Wallace,Lillie-Beth Brinkman,Callie Gordon | Updated: Mon, Sep 28, 2015

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: Should I reschedule our Back-to-School Bash? Or leave it until next year? My daughters are in first and second grade, and we planned a back-to-school bash at the local park shelter. We were grilling hot dogs and hamburgers, providing drinks and fun stuff and had asked each family to bring their favorite side dish. Ten minutes before the start of the party, a lightning rainstorm broke out. The radar showed the storm would get worse and continue for a while. We made a last-minute decision to cancel the party. Though no families had arrived yet, 40 people were on their way with a side.

  • 20-40-60 etiquette: Rain delay?

    BY CALLIE ATHEY, LILLIE-BETH BRINKMAN AND HELEN FORD WALLACE | Published: Mon, Sep 28, 2015

    What's a hostess to do when lightning storm forces picnic's cancellation while guests are on the way? The Oklahoman's 20-40-60 columnists weigh in with their thoughts. Devonne Carter has the guest answer.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette ---Have I been ghosted?

    Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace | Updated: Wed, Sep 9, 2015

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION:  After several months of dating a new guy, I never heard from him again. My friends told me I had been "ghosted." Is "ghosting" a new term for being dumped? It was somewhat abrupt. I just never heard from him again, even after I tried to get in contact with him. What did I do wrong?  CALLIE'S ANSWER: Ghosted is when someone abruptly stops the relationship and never speaks to you again. Blow him off; he sounds like he has issues. LILLIE-BETH'S ANSWER: I've seen two stories using this term recently, in The New York Times and on the Huffington Post.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette: Can I call when people don't RSVP?

    BY CALLIE ATHEY, LILLIE-BETH BRINKMAN AND HELEN FORD WALLACE | Published: Mon, Aug 31, 2015

    The Oklahoman's 20-40-60 etiquette crew discuss whether it's OK to call when people haven't RSVP'ed for an event. Linda Miller has the guest answer.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---Table manners for the nose

    Helen Ford Wallace | Published: Mon, Aug 24, 2015

    To ask an etiquette question, email Helen: hwallace@oklahoman.com YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: Your sensible feature on manners and etiquette is always enjoyable, addressing as it does so many often overlooked pleasantries that oil social discourse. A topic I’ve never seen mentioned is the repellent […]

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette: That's snot funny

    BY CALLIE ATHEY, LILLIE-BETH BRINKMAN AND HELEN FORD WALLACE | Published: Mon, Aug 24, 2015

    What should you do if you have to sneeze or blow your nose while at the dining table? Yvette Walker has the guest answer.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette: Which tea for me?

    BY CALLIE ATHEY, LILLIE-BETH BRINKMAN AND HELEN FORD WALLACE For The Oklahoman | Updated: Mon, Aug 17, 2015

    The 20-40-60 Etiquette columnists share what they learned in response to a question about the difference between high tea and afternoon tea.




Lillie-Beth Brinkman Wed, Feb. 03 2016 08:56:54 PM CST I can attest to that @jk_rowling! My kids & I have all been fans forever & this has been dinner table talk of late! https://t.co/YEbeL19bPp
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Wed, Feb. 03 2016 01:19:34 PM CST @paulmccord Going on right now?
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Tue, Jan. 26 2016 10:05:34 PM CST What Facebook's On This Day shows about the fragility of our online lives https://t.co/xvKCvClI8S
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Thu, Jan. 21 2016 09:54:41 PM CST RT @EdmondSchools: EMHS & Cimarron Orchestra Director David Koehn named "Exemplary Teacher" by OK Music Educators Association. https://t.co
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Tue, Jan. 19 2016 10:31:16 AM CST @jaclyncosgrove Close 2nd: https://t.co/9qezSGE1Uc. I was slightly tempted to enter related $50,000 essay contest, expecting no competition.
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Tue, Jan. 19 2016 10:25:04 AM CST RT @jaclyncosgrove: Today, @lillie_beth reminded me of the worst PR email pitch I have ever seen. Subject line: "Let's talk about SIDS, bab
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Thu, Jan. 14 2016 05:21:20 AM CST RT @cityofokc: BABY GOAT ALERT: The Hefner Canal goat herd welcomed a baby yesterday. Could be more soon! Check out the day-old kid https:/
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Fri, Jan. 08 2016 03:19:32 PM CST @OKCMOA When will tickets go on sale? Where?
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Fri, Jan. 08 2016 01:06:28 PM CST RT @Mecoy: 98 years ago in @TheOklahoman Boosters proclaim OKC most progressive city in the new state. https://t.co/y7EDzvB4sI https://t.co
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Fri, Jan. 08 2016 01:03:40 PM CST @HeideWrite Sad I missed you there last night!
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Fri, Jan. 08 2016 01:01:40 PM CST RT @OKCPS: More historic chalkboards from 1917 found during renovations at Emerson HS. https://t.co/JEUCuBbgzF
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Wed, Jan. 06 2016 10:56:06 PM CST @PhilBacharach @thedigsy @tzeeck @andyokc @HeideWrite Kind of like "double rainbow." But not.
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Wed, Jan. 06 2016 10:54:33 PM CST @thedigsy @tzeeck @PhilBacharach @andyokc @HeideWrite It might have been a double earthquake. Two back to back! https://t.co/EqZ6y6IBhy
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Wed, Jan. 06 2016 10:48:13 PM CST Seemed much closer than this ... #okwx #okquake M4.3 - 31km NW of Fairview, Oklahoma https://t.co/KeeIY1OsKn
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Wed, Jan. 06 2016 10:39:28 PM CST @HeideWrite @JustVin_ @tzeeck I felt double earthquake. It lasted longer than usual. Memorial and Bryant, close to the recent epicenters.
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Tue, Jan. 05 2016 09:54:50 PM CST RT @DeathStarPR: SPOILERS: The new #StarWars #TheForceAwakens opening crawl for millennials. https://t.co/xkqJh0Mn3N
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Sat, Jan. 02 2016 09:05:33 AM CST @alamokie hahaha. Did you ever catch it? I haven't heard any more about it in awhile?
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Tue, Dec. 29 2015 06:22:34 AM CST RT @CynthiaNichols: I get on here after an earthquake to 1) confirm I'm not losing my mind & 2) see who's got the snarkiest commentary. Y'a…
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Tue, Dec. 29 2015 06:13:20 AM CST RT @philsnews: Looks like a 4.1, not the biggest. Still here's a look at the power outage that happened around the same time. https://t.co/…
Lillie-Beth Brinkman Tue, Dec. 29 2015 05:56:26 AM CST RT @NatalieKCombs: Power is out near Covell and Coltrane. (Fairfax) Went dark with earthquake .@NEWS9

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