• 20-40-60 Etiquette---RSVP Please

    Helen Ford Wallace | Updated: Mon, Aug 31, 2015

    To ask an etiquette, email Helen—hwallace@oklahoman.com YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE!   By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: I recently saw these wedding place cards attributed to theoverwhelmedbride on Facebook. "I didn't RSVP but I came anyways." There were at least four of them signifying the four people who did not RSVP for a seated wedding dinner. But, my husband and I recently were hosts for our daughter's wedding reception where 50 people did not RSVP. Luckily, the food was served buffet style, but we could not figure out the appropriate number to give to the caterer.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette: Can I call when people don't RSVP?


    The Oklahoman's 20-40-60 etiquette crew discuss whether it's OK to call when people haven't RSVP'ed for an event. Linda Miller has the guest answer.

  • If the shoe fits....Marion Parke at Balliet's

    Helen Ford Wallace | Updated: Sun, Aug 30, 2015

    Barbara Jansen, Marion Parke, Linda Garrett.   Luxury footwear designer Marion Parke brought her 2016 Spring/Summer shoe collection by the same name to Balliet's and friends dropped by to see her and the shoes. It was a pre-order event since the shoes are not yet in the stores and won't be for several months, but guests enjoyed seeing Parke and sipping champagne. "Balliets is the premier Oklahoma City retailer for luxury accessories. Bob, DeDe and Barbara (Jansen, Balliets footwear buyer) have a discerning eye and see luxury brands on a daily basis, so it’s a true honor to be invited into the store and to be in such good company," Parke, podiatric surgeon from Minneapolis, Minn., and a former Oklahoma resident,

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette: That's snot funny


    What should you do if you have to sneeze or blow your nose while at the dining table? Yvette Walker has the guest answer.

  • Parties, Etc.: Aug. 23: Helen Ford Wallace

    By Helen Ford Wallace hwallace@Oklahoman.com | Published: Sun, Aug 23, 2015

    Bridal Luncheon, Birthday, Reunion, Art Exhibit

  • Amy Bankhead and Natasha Newmann--- Medical Alliance- Kitchen Tour---Oklahoma City--- Parties Extra! Video

    Updated: Wed, Aug 19, 2015

    [brightcove][brightcove]4429940520001[/brightcove][/brightcove] Amy Bankhead and Natasha Neumann talk about Medical Alliance on Parties Extra! (Photo by Helen Ford Wallace).

  • Final summer concert set for Nichols Hills Band

    From Staff Reports | Published: Wed, Aug 19, 2015

    Nichols Hills Band's final concert of the summer will be Thursday in Kite Park.

  • Is it "High Tea" or "Aftenoon Tea?"---20-40-60 Etiquette in Oklahoma City

    Updated: Mon, Aug 17, 2015

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! (Editor's note: Columnist Callie Gordon was married to Matthew Athey on Saturday at the Christ the King Catholic Church. Her new byline is Callie Athey.) By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: I am planning a tea for my mother's birthday. Is there a difference between calling it a "high tea" or an "afternoon tea"? Which is more appropriate?  CALLIE’S ANSWER: I googled this as I did not know. High tea is eaten at the table and usually around dinnertime. Afternoon tea is seen as a small meal between lunch and dinner, sitting around the sofa.

  • Art Show at The Carnegie Center with Judy Hatfield

    Updated: Sun, Aug 16, 2015

       Jerry Richardson, Linda Howell, Judy Hatfield, Ken Howell. (Photos by Helen Ford Wallace). Judy Hatfield was hostess for one of her bi-monthly art shows on the 4th floor of The Carnegie Center in the Art Stage Venue. The show features Oklahoma artists.  The Howell Gallery presented Joy Richardson’s excellent artwork.  Wine and sushi, goat cheese balls, jalapeno hummus, blond brownies and cookies were served as well as nut cheese provided by “Nourished”, one of The Carnegie’s tenants.  Among those attending the event were Vonda and Mike Henderson, Debbie and Jay Harper, Sandy and Art Cotton, Meg Salyer, Shelley Pruitt, Bob Meinders, David Graham,

  • Helen Ford Wallace: Parties, Etc.: Aug. 16

    By HELEN FORD WALLACE Society Editor | Published: Sun, Aug 16, 2015

    HONORING LAURA Bridal shower/brunch: Laura Nauman was honored at a garden-themed bridal shower in the home of Kelly Pearson. Co-hostesses were Sally Boyd and Hannah Scandy. Menu: A mimosa bar featured juices and fresh fruits for mixing with Prosecco, and brunch was three varieties of quiche from the Plaza District’s Pie Junkie, fresh fruit and miniature cakes. Take-away treats: Party favors were miniature watering cans planted with tiny succulents in keeping with the bride’s wedding theme “Love Grows Here.” Gifts: The bride received many garden and kitchen-related gifts including a 6-foot garden art pole from her parents, Robin and Dennis Nauman. Guests:  Attendees included Robin Nauman, Andrea M.

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---I need my shoes!

    Updated: Thu, Aug 13, 2015

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! (To ask an etiquette question, please email Helen at hfsok@aol.com) By Callie Gordon, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: When I went to visit my friends, they asked me to take my shoes off when I came inside their house. Is this a new custom? CALLIE’S ANSWER: For some, it is customary and polite to remove your shoes when entering their home. This is mostly a preference. LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: This isn’t a new custom, but I don’t think it’s as widespread in the United States as it is elsewhere. There is plenty of debate about the subject, however.

  • Parties Extra! Video---Jane Kelly and Patrick Kelly from JJ Kelly Bridal Salon

    Updated: Tue, Aug 11, 2015

    [brightcove][brightcove]4414706757001[/brightcove][/brightcove] Jane Kelly and Patrick Kelly talk about wedding dresses and debutante dresses and Idoappointments on Parties Extra!

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette: The game's afoot

    BY CALLIE GORDON, LILLIE-BETH BRINKMAN AND HELEN FORD WALLACE For The Oklahoman | Published: Mon, Aug 10, 2015

    The Oklahoman's 20-40-60 Etiquette columnists address a question about being asked to remove one's shoes at a friend's home.

  • Helen Ford Wallace: Parties, Etc.: Aug. 9

    By Helen Ford Wallace hwallace@Oklahoman.com | Published: Sun, Aug 9, 2015

    Summer Supper, Wine and Art, Birthday Party, Women's Golf Association Gala

  • Parties Extra! Video---Marion Paden and Lee Ann Stone---Leadership Oklahoma

    Updated: Thu, Aug 6, 2015

    Marion Paden and Lee Ann Stone talk about Leadership Oklahoma on Parties Extra! [brightcove][brightcove]4401350726001[/brightcove][/brightcove]

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---Who should I invite to dinner?

    Updated: Mon, Aug 3, 2015

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE! By Callie Gordon, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION:  I am going to have my first dinner party. How do I decide who to invite? Should it be family members? Work people? Old school friends? People I want to get to know better? CALLIE’S ANSWER: It sounds like you need to figure out what kind of a dinner party you want. Who do you want to cook for and have in your home? Start there. Good luck! LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: Usually you decide to host a dinner party based on the people you want to see. Just pick a group and have fun with it.

  • Six Debutantes are hostesses for party in Oklahoma City

    Updated: Sun, Aug 2, 2015

      Hannah Frogge, Callie Kumler, Liza Cameron, Katherine Wolf, Carly Collins, Caroline Sullivan. (Photo by Fran Kozakowski).  Among the parties this summer for Beaux Arts Ball debutantes, escorts and friends was the one that Debutantes Liza Cameron, Carly Collins, Hannah Frogge, Callie Kumler, Caroline Sullivan and Katherine Wolf gave recently. It was themed “Beauxnanza” party and was held on the Bedlam BBQ back patio.  The western- themed event featured assorted barbecue sliders. Vases of Gerber daisies and buckets of peanuts were on the tables.  Guests danced to the music of C+.

  • Helen Ford Wallace: Parties, Etc.: Aug. 2

    By Helen Ford Wallace hwallace@Oklahoman.com | Published: Sun, Aug 2, 2015

    Beaux Arts Ball Party, Chickasaw Hall of Fame, Picnic, Pi Phi Award

  • 20-40-60 Etiquette---Swimming pool etiquette?

    Updated: Tue, Jul 28, 2015

    YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE By Callie Gordon, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace QUESTION: I take my children to the swimming pool and always sit by the pool to keep an eye on them. Sometimes I wear my swimsuit, and sometimes I have on shorts. There is a group of older kids that continue to jump in the pool without regard to whom they are splashing, or what they are wearing. How do I politely ask them to stop without them retaliating against my children or me? CALLIE’S ANSWER: Simply let the kids know: “You should be mindful of where you are getting in the pool so you don’t splash others.

  • Parties Extra! Video---Youth Services for Oklahoma County---Kami Kuykendall and Betsy Mantor

    Updated: Mon, Jul 27, 2015

    [brightcove]4364297960001[/brightcove] Kami Kuykendall and  Betsy Mantor talk about Youth Services for Oklahoma County on Parties Extra!