Foster is one of two adoption program managers in Oklahoma who oversee 39 adoption specialists. She said paperwork can leave adoption workers frustrated and disheartened.
But a small harmonica Foster keeps tucked away in a special place helps make the mountains of paperwork and countless meetings tolerable.
The harmonica belonged to Earl Frazer, Foster’s grandfather.
When Foster and her siblings gather at her parents’ home in Dewey, the family often reflects on the life of Frazer, who died in 1990. One of Foster’s earliest memories is of her grandfather playing the harmonica she now owns and treasures.
"My grandpa was a wonderful man,” Foster said. "I adored him, and he adored me.”
A live saved
Frazer was orphaned when he was 3, but his childhood was rescued after he was adopted. Most relatives believe he was placed on the Orphan Train, but the family has no documentation of that. Orphan Trains took children who needed homes by railroad from the East Coast to rural areas in the Midwest and West.
His infant and toddler years were marred by tragedy, with the death of his mother and the disappearance of his father, who abandoned him and his older sister, Ethel. Because his father could not be found, Frazer was considered an orphan.
One Sunday in 1908, as the family story goes, the Orphan Train stopped in Independence, Kan. Frazer, who was 4, was dressed in his best suit and taken to the church by a social worker.