Service marks start of healing process

By Tony Thornton Published: April 21, 2006

/> Jamie's father, Curtis Bolin, comforted his ex-wife and Jamie's mother, Jennifer Fox, throughout the 45-minute service. Girl Scouts from Jamie's Troop 255 came in uniform, as did 19 police officers, firefighters, sheriff's deputies and ambulance workers.

Elmore called Jamie "a rose, vibrant and beautiful, fashioned by God's own hand. ... She was a rose full of color, full of life, whose stay with us was far too short.

Jamie's service featured a videotaped photo montage, her dimples and impish grin present in each school picture. The video also included a scene from her prekindergarten graduation ceremony, with Jamie proudly wearing her graduation cap as "Jesus Loves Me played in the background.

For Elmore, Jamie's death reminded him of the feelings he experienced as a youth pastor when a violent death befell one of his youth group members. He remembered going to the alter and crying out, "I don't understand, God.

"The Lord spoke to my heart, It's OK. He's with me.' Then a peace unlike any other flooded my heart. I want to tell you tonight, it's OK. She's with Him, Elmore said.

The pastor said probably most people in attendance have wanted to speak to Jamie's family during the past week, but couldn't find the words.

"Today is a time for healing to begin, for the mending of our hearts to start, although this wound may mend slowly, he said.

We can get through this'

Speaking directly to Jamie's parents, Elmore said, soon the media attention will die down. Long after that, "there will still be people here who love you, pray for you and welcome you.

Afterward, the Girl Scouts handed their roses to Jamie's immediate family. The law officers followed, some hugging Jamie's mother.

At the burial site, one of Jamie's uncles asked Purcell Police Chief David Tompkins for five minutes alone with the man accused of killing her.

"I just told him, You can turn your head. Nobody needs to know about it,' Bud Anderson said.

Tompkins later said he has spent time with both the Bolin and Underwood families. "Both of them are devastated, he said.

Jamie's grandmother's minister urged the family not to waste too much time asking the unanswerable question.

"Nowhere in the Bible does it tell us why things like this happen, the Rev. Gerald Johnson said. "What good can come of something like this? Bless your heart. I don't know. But the Lord knows, and he will guide you through it, Johnson said.

He said if mourners can maintain their faith, "we can get through this. If we can't, we're going to have emotional, spiritual and physical problems for the rest of our lives. has disabled the comments for this article.

How to help

Memorial funds in Jamie Rose Bolin’s name have been set up at two banks.Contributions may be made in care of her memorial fund to any Bank of Oklahoma branch, or to the First American Bank, P.O. Box 1560, Purcell, OK 73080. That bank may be reached by phone at 579-7000.

What you said

Hundreds of people from across the state and nation expressed sympathy and support online for the family of 10-year-old Jamie Rose Bolin. Some could relate to the loss of a child or loved one, and many offered a prayer or kind thought. Most who posted on The Oklahoman’s online obituary guestbook were shocked by the tragedy and senselessness of her death.

When we first heard about Jamie on the news my heart just dropped. We were sure that they would find her and she would be fine. We are so sorry for your loss. Just know that she is in a better place now, and God will take care of her. She will always be in your heart. Our prayers go out to you and your family.

Michael and Doris Ventris, Meeker

I have a beautiful 10-year old niece. So I know how much Jamie was loved and cherished. Remember, she is with our Heavenly Father now, and will be there to meet us when it is our time to see God.

Lavern Smith, Apache

Since Wednesday, we have prayed for your family that your little girl would be found. We’re truly sorry that it has turned out this way. God is there for you during this difficult time. We’ll pray that you will find a way to continue. As a community, we are mourning her loss also. Our deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family.

Mark and Jennifer Brazell and Carolyn Womack, Wayne

Our hearts go out to you. We can’t possibly understand your loss, but we want you to know we grieve with you.

Joe and Carol Barker, Bartlesville

Rose was such a sweet little girl. Her smile was worth so much. God bless the family. We lift you up in our prayers.

Cindy Watkins, Lexington

Words cannot express what you must feel for the loss of Jamie Rose. But my prayer is that you will find much comfort and consolation. Jamie Rose is precious. May she rest in peace.

Melda Rossiter, Agra

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