It’s not easy being a wife of a baseball player. Or when you’re serving in the U.S. Congress, for that matter.
For baseball wives, there are a lot of expectations. It’s not just clinging to the muscular baseball star and joining him at press conferences, wrote Barry Svrluga of The Washington Post. Raising a family, taking care of the home and a myriad of other things fill the daily schedule of a baseball wife, Svrluga wrote.
“Baseball wives are expected to wed at a certain time of year, to give birth at a certain time of year, to pick up the toys and the car and the dogs and the kids when dad is sent to the minors or traded midseason,” Svrluga wrote. “They are full-time moms, part-time real estate agents, occasional fathers, all-hours dog walkers, logistical magicians.”
And the players realize this. Ian Desmond, shortstop for the Washington Nationals, told The Post that marriages between baseball players and their wives aren't normal marriages. It’s actually complex and harrowing, especially for mothers, Desmond told The Post.
“For half the year, you’re like a single mom,” Desmond said. “And you’re a single mom in a city where you have no support. It’s not like you’re at home and you’ve got your family and friends that can keep eyes on kids. It’s completely different.”
But they’re not the only moms having a tough time. Congresswomen are also expected to manage a home life and their political careers. NPR’s Tamara Keith wrote Friday about different mothers in Congress who have to find time to take care of their kids, while also looking to make waves at the voting booths. Cathy McMorris Rodgers, R-Wash., spoke to NPR about the changes she has had to make.
“In order to maximize family time, McMorris Rodgers says, she and her husband decided to move the family to Washington, D.C. That used to be common for members of Congress, but now most leave their families back home, and some even take pride in sleeping in their offices. Choosing to keep her husband and kids close comes with some amount of political peril.”
And Rep. Linda Sanchez, D-Calif., also spoke to NPR about her lifestyle. She said it’s almost impossible to manage both realms — the home and the Congressional office — and that maybe that’s for the better.
"You can't be the perfect member of Congress and the perfect mother 100 percent of the time," she said to NPR. "And probably you'd be a pretty annoying person if you were."
That has been a constant struggle for political families overall, though, wrote Sam Clemence for Deseret News National.
“Holding any public office will present a family with challenges … As with other difficulties in life, the family can work through them and come out better and stronger, or the challenges can damage the family,” Clemence wrote. “A life of politics puts stress on families, but it’s also not without rewards for those who endure and overcome.”