“If you really like Valentine's Day and it is an important ritual to you and your mate, go for it,” Doherty wrote.
“Do it up big as a special occasion ritual. I know a man who makes a Valentine's reservation months in advance for a favorite romantic restaurant.
“Another couple goes away for a weekend near Valentine's Day. When I hear these things, I feel a little envious of people who don't let the superficiality of the day get in their way,” Doherty wrote.
Victoria, Texas, psychologist Lane Johnson said Valentine's Day “becomes whatever we want to make of it.”
“For some, it's a special time. For others, it's just another day,” Johnson said.
Smith emphasized that her husband is thoughtful year-round, but his extra effort on Valentine's Day is treasured, and she also returns the favor.
“It sure makes all of us feel loved and appreciated,” Smith wrote. “I always get him a heart, too, because thoughtfulness and love like that shouldn't go unappreciated.”
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