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Your Life: Fear of appearing foolish can be crippling

Charlotte Lankard: Time spent worrying what other people think squelches our joy and our fun.
BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman Modified: March 2, 2013 at 11:49 pm •  Published: March 4, 2013
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Remember BancFirst's Gene Rainbolt — and his “Dancing with the Stars” performance for a Jewish Federation celebration? He got a standing ovation and rave reviews for months because he was willing to be in the spotlight doing something he'd never done before and taking a risk he might look foolish.

“The Art of Imperfection” by Veronique Viennae emphasizes perfection is not a requirement for being successful and happy and there is something basically good and healthy about being wrong, disorganized and silly at times.

Too often we live in other people's ruts. We do things because we've been conditioned that way and it doesn't cross our minds to do something different.

So take a risk — do something you've never done before — and what if people laugh? Take a bow.

Charlotte Lankard is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice. Email her at


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