Your Life: It's OK to ask for help

Charlotte Lankard: It is OK to ask for help, whether it is information, encouragement, a hand, a ride or a hug. Asking for help in a direct manner is not the same as asking someone to rescue you.
BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD clankard@opubco.com Published: July 9, 2012
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It is OK to ask for help, whether it is information, encouragement, a hand, a ride or a hug. If the person says no, you can deal with that. Perhaps you asked the wrong person.

Asking for help in a direct manner is not the same as asking someone to rescue you.

Wanting to be rescued is when you whine, coerce or attempt to manipulate. Or perhaps you say nothing, because “she should know and I shouldn't have to ask.”

That way of behaving is self-defeating. You take on the role of a victim and become powerless.

You give your power away anytime you ask someone else what you should do. While it is OK to consider options others have chosen, the bottom line is you are the only authority on you. My friend Doug Manning says, “God gave you brains, so don't stick them in your back pocket.”

You give away your power:

When you spend your time worrying and fretting instead of taking action.

When you think you don't deserve help.

When you live in fear and do nothing. If you have thought being courageous meant you didn't feel fear, you have misunderstood.

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