There are times when you have to take a step, not knowing the outcome. It is only after the first step you see more clearly the next one.
I know a father who tells his children, “At some point in a dilemma, you have to do something. If the action you take is not helpful, you are not a failure, you have simply learned an important lesson.”
You give away your power when you choose to be unhappy. If you are blaming anyone else for making you feel unhappy, you are again a victim.
Whether or not you are happy is entirely up to you.
D.H. Lawrence, an English novelist said, “If you are willing to be sponged out, erased, canceled, and made nothing, you will never really change.”
Of course, you could always ask for help.
Charlotte Lankard is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.