I now understand it is important to accept each of these pieces as necessary.
Life experiences like puzzle pieces offer choices. We can become bitter and resentful, live as a victim and never see the larger picture or we can find a way to make them fit in the mosaic of our lives by learning from them and making them useful in helping others going through something similar.
This encourages us to sign on for the adventure, find joy in each day and appreciate how the pieces begin to fall into the right places. All that is required is to keep showing up for life.
Being willing to take some risks and make some mistakes is easier if we understand hitting a dead end simply means we keep moving forward and find a new path. Often we are surprised by how good it can be.
Charlotte Lankard is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.